ADHD. Take a breath, my 5 1/2 year old son has ADHD. I have to admit, it wasn’t a total shock to learn this about my son. His father (my ex husband) has it and his two paternal uncles do as well. Honestly, the news came somewhat as relief. My child isn’t just being defiant or disobedient the majority of the time. To have that confirmation that something else is going on felt like a weight being lifted off of my shoulders. So what now? My plan is to get him as much help as possible. I want to find a great psychologist to teach him coping skills and other techniques. I do not want him being frustrated and disappointed in himself and his work in school because his attention span is literally one minute on a good day. I don’t want this being an excuse to misbehave or be disobedient. I feel like way too often now a days people say, “Oh he just has ADD, that’s why he acts like that.” I don’t care if you can concentrate for 2 hours or 2 minutes. I know plenty of people that read novels in a day that are just plain jerks.
I feel like my children will reflect myself. They will show the impact of what I believe, what I consider standards, what I am tolerant of, as well as what I am intolerant to. Of course they are individuals and I stress the word “impact” because they have free will and consequently choose how to apply all of the values I teach them to their lives. I’m sure there are so many more behavior labels today because people are more aware of the issues involved. I also think diet and all the preservatives, fillers, and toxins in our food contribute to this recent surge in diagnoses. Aside from blaming who is doing this to all of us, I want my children to respect their elders with a genuine respect. I want them to work hard and I want them to take pride in everything that they do because it reflects who they are. I want my children to be different than the generation that is around us. Call it “old school” if you want.
I am relieved to have this “label” on my son. I feel like he will have all of the opportunities open to him. He will have to work much harder than some other kids, learning to navigate his way around this obstacle. I am truly happy because I feel like I can understand my son so much more today than I could yesterday, just from a meeting and reading some literature. He is brilliant, he is sweet, he will give you all of his Christmas presents just because you say they are cool. He is my blessing that has a very hard time listening, focusing and is extremely impulsive. And God made him exactly this way.