It was a good year. Actually, it was a great year. So great it almost makes me apprehensive for 2014. Then again, I had many years that felt like lengthy vacations in Hell, so maybe I was due for a good one! I kid, I kid.
I hate all the negativity that keeps surfacing in the news and social media in regards to resolutions. In all honesty, I think that the person that doesn’t take a moment to reflect on the past year, appreciate the good, and make goals for a better future, is just foolish. He uses the whole, “if I want to do something, I’ll do it,” attitude and not needing a date change, as a crutch to not address any faults or progress that he might actually be able to achieve. I too, used to have that attitude, in what I like to refer to as my past life. Maybe I’m completely wrong, but if you never analyze the way things are and compare them to how they could be or used to be, how do you have any sense of direction at all? There’s two types of people: the sayers and the doers.
“Sayers” are people that are just full of opinions, most of which are so generic and cultivated by whatever is surrounding them. They’re “blenders,” as I would like to call it…sort of like chameleons. Their beliefs fluctuate with popularity. They don’t listen very often because they’re too busy talking. And that’s all they do is talk, talk, talk with little action to back up anything they say. They’re usually the most heard because they are the loudest. Isn’t it funny that the loudest people usually have the least important things to say? I can vaguely remember a saying that had to do with speaking softly so that people will want to hear what you say. With social media, news 24/7, and even blogging, it feels sometimes as though we’ve created a generation of loud mouths that think because they have a following, that their opinion is the way.
A doer, on the other hand, is typically a more humble person. Maybe he doesn’t always come off that way, but he is, and the reason is that the doer has taken the time and the discomfort to identify an area that needs change and commits to it. A doer doesn’t make an excuse as to why something is the way that it is, but evaluates it, and creates a plan. A doer, even in his failed attempts, has conquered much more than a “sayer” because he has admitted he wants more.
Like I said, in my past life, I didn’t make resolutions. What I did was entirely different than what I thought I was doing. I thought I was making steps towards progress in changing the circumstances in my life, but I was actually just coping with the situation I was in. It’s funny because when you’re in a state of mind like that, you just don’t see it. I was so focused on trying to hold it all together, that I couldn’t see the way out. I couldn’t see that I had to let, or better yet, make my entire life fall apart in order to pick up the pieces and make it into something new. My hope for you this new year, is that you don’t try to keep it all together because it’s more comfortable that way. Changing something doesn’t feel good and it isn’t easy, but it’s almost always worth the discomfort it takes to achieve it.
I know I’m getting all profound and probably irritating, but it doesn’t have to be that complicated. My point is that you can be honest with yourself about whatever it may be that you want change, even if it’s as simple as the ever so popular diet. Take the time to have that awkward, self-conversation, and develop a way to transform it. Change doesn’t occur unless you can admit something is wrong. “Sayers” would have you believe that this is admitting you’re a failure. It’s admitting you are human, you have weaknesses, and you have room to grow.
Thank God caterpillars don’t think they’re perfect. They know there is something more for them and create home to eventually transform into a beautiful butterfly. Even something as simple as a baby. They are filled with discontent and are constantly striving to sit, crawl, walk, talk, and progress past the point they are at. We are created this way. We are supposed to want change. At what point in our lives do we lose that God given ambition and just settle for whatever the current circumstances are, whether self inflicted or not? Settling is just a popular lie the “sayers” would love you to believe because when you’re in that state of mind, you’re an audience to them. The moment you decide you’re tired of listening is the moment you take charge of your life and change it.
Resolutions, whether big or small, are a great thing. The only time your life should stop transforming is when you’re no longer here.